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By August 20, 2019Culture, Philosophy

ARCHIVE UPDATE [from 4-17-18] — Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. It is the capacity to interrelate with compassion, concern, consideration.

With respect to longevity, it is empathetic to appreciate the aging experience, both individually and collectively, as an accomplishment and an opportunity. Rather than only burdensome and challenging. Moreover, to rid society of ageism and all its prejudicial and unhealthy consequences, a useful step forward would be to stop labelling older adults as “them.” Such a distinction infers older adults are some sort of special interest group — to deal with in isolation, through segregation, almost like a disease.

But the truth is humankind’s longevity is, quite naturally, about us. Everyone is aging, some of us simply have more experience. The sooner we understand that empathy is ageless, the better we can all embrace — and not deny or attempt to defy — the inevitability of growing older.

When empathy rules, longevity rules. And then the instruction of The Golden Rule becomes reality.


Most people believe in The Golden Rule. “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you” is at the core of a civil society — the fundamental social contract that encourages good behavior and discourages bad, rude and criminal behavior.

Of course, there is no guarantee or, for that matter, law that ensures everyone will follow The Golden Rule. It is more of a suggestion — like speed limits and stop signs.

What if, The Golden Rule was more than an Utopian fantasy? Dishonesty, immorality, greed, prejudice, crime and conflict of all sorts would not exist. There’d be no more corrupt politicians, deceptive salespeople, rude waiters and inconsiderate drivers. Forget the half-joking warning about driving on Southern California freeways — Never use your blinker that just tips them off. Through the best and worst of times, we’d all have each other’s back.

For decades, research by Gallup, CNN and USN&WP into people’s attitudes about Americans’ standards of behavior have showed nearly three-fourths of us are dissatisfied with the level of honesty, morality and ethics in the country.

Unfortunately, humankind’s frustration over the lack of respect for one another has resulted in little more than condemnations, commitments and prose.


The reciprocal positivity of The Golden Rule is distinguished throughout history by a number of inspiring commentaries. Yet, as for any official intents and purposes, its authority is second rate — unworthy of the top 10 Commandments, with only an indirect biblical mention, and there’s no Constitutional or legal standing — which may explain the chasm between believing and following.

  • The earliest known reference to The Golden Rule comes from the writings of Confucius sometime around 500 B.C. Curiously stated from a negative perspective, Confucius instructed, “What you do not want done to yourself, do not do to others.”
  • A couple hundred years later Aristotle offered this friendlier interpretation: “We should behave to our friends as we would wish our friends to behave to us.”
  • Circa single digit years A.D., Hillel wrote this neighborly advice, “What is hateful to you do not do to your neighbor.”
  • The closest biblical reference comes from Matthew, who explained, “Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets.”
  • In 1747, the Earl of Chesterfield wrote, “Do as you would be done by, is the surest method of pleasing.”
  • With respect to teaching our youth, Albert Einstein emphasized the development of morality and values: “Something more is needed to produce a truly educated person — namely, an ever-present feeling of social responsibility for one’s fellow human being.”

Clearly, The Golden Rule resonates … in principle. Yet, our actions betray our beliefs. That we cannot follow something so sublime as “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you” illustrates the depth of our (mis)trust in one another. If only we would practice what we preach. And mutually agree to resolve the eternal identity crisis: You are what you do, not what you say.


  • edwitts says:

    I wish Donald Trump had a little understanding of this. Not to get political or anything.

  • greenbaumgpr says:

    Very perceptive observation and wishful thinking

  • Gary Greenbaum says:

    “Everyone is aging, some of us simply have more experience.” I love this quote. Very interesting timeline of Golden Rule quotes.

  • Matt Perry says:

    Stuart, this popped up in my in box this week for some reason and it actually piqued my interest for two reasons. First, I’m surprised people couldn’t cite The Golden Rule since I’ve always thought it was obvious to pretty much everyone: “Do unto others as you would like them to do unto you” or “Treat others the way you want to be treated.” The second reason is that this reminded me when I had my “divorce” from the California Health Report in 2017, and after some time to think, play and travel finally went back into the freelance writing search and reached out to several friends, I asked them if they could please connect me with five people who might need my services. You were one of the people I asked. Yet you didn’t connect me to a single person. I’ve reached out to you a couple of other times and the response has always been some vague generalization about associations and the like. Is this really the Golden Rule in action? Because if the tables were turned I would have absolutely given you the names of five people I knew and would have gone out of my way to make a personal introduction.

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